Accepting what I did not want to accept

We often come across situations in life where we get hurt by other people or a situation. We are often told to think whether the person is really important enough in our life to mean that much to us. And, while consoling the person who got hurt, basically it is told to them to just move on and forget the other person.

 I have a different theory. We already know most of the time the issues are which can hurt our feelings. And what happens is that whenever we get amazed by a person or a situation or simply we get used to a situation which has that trait which can make you feel bad, we start to procrastinate to accept that fact. We try to make ourselves overlook those till the point which is just unbearable to us. But the fact of the matter is that people usually do not change drastically to fit into other criteria because they have their own life. In a situation when you yourself are trying to deny the potential of someone/something to make you feel bad, that/they will also deny it till it does by any of its inherent quality which is so natural to it.

 We always try to explain events in the light of our understandings. And when we cannot do it, we stop thinking about it unless you practice to do otherwise consciously. That is the reason behind not accepting certain things believing things will fall into places (to our liking). Our mind always try to analyse a situation with the resources available to it and if you restrain an information by not accepting it, there is a possibility that our mind will not be able to break down the situation which is the outcome of that very information to a level in which your consciousness can understand.

 I have seen that if you accept that certain person act in certain way, certain group of people will always think in a certain way, it is all really very easy to explain everything in you own mind. Reality is after all, how you perceive it. There is a point however to note that by accepting people does not mean to assign a value to it and belittle them, rather respecting their individuality as an independent human being as well as in a certain group. By accepting and respecting a person you give that person a room to be what he or she really is and you give yourself a room to live freely.